Oh my gosh you guys.  I actually did it!  I can't believe I did it!  I locked the door to the bathroom while I am taking a bath!  I can't help but wonder if this is how excited my husband gets every single night when he takes shower or bath?  Why is it that men have such an easier time drawing boundaries around their self care?  Why do I feel like I just preformed the ultimate form of mom rebellion by locking the door when my husband doesn't think twice about this exact behavior?  

Years of conditioning created the guilt that I feel when I tend to my wants and needs when I finally spend the time, money, and space on myself.  Where does this guilt come from? I know I wasn't born with these feelings, thoughts and beliefs.  

This guilt comes from the messages all around us.  From family, friends, society, social media, news, teachers....and the list can go on.  Have you ever stopped to question these faulty beliefs?  Many of us don't.  We don't challenge them because either we are not a...

“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen”~Brene Brown

So many of my years were spent being the person I thought I “should” be. I am the first born, which means I am an over-achiever and strive for perfectionism. Some of my younger memories include being yelled at for my first “B”, going to weight watchers at ten years old, and being made fun of for the clothes I wore and the hairstyle I chose. Before that, I was a fun loving, free spirited, vibrant, live-out-loud kind of girl. Early in my years, just like most of us, I was taught what was acceptable. I was taught how good little Catholic girls were supposed to act. I was taught that achievement was of the upmost importance. I was taught how wives and mothers were supposed to behave. I was taught what was, and was not, acceptable within a marriage and a family.

I am grateful for all of these lessons and experiences, for it has made me the per...