Many women call it a midlife crisis. I used to call it a midlife awakening. Now, I call it a Homecoming.

This is about unbecoming so you can become who you were all along.

Beneath the expectations. Beneath the roles. Beneath the obligations. Beneath the conditioned beliefs. Beneath the learned behaviors that kept you safe and accepted. Beneath the limitations our families and society place on us.

Richard Rohr called this "falling upward." Ram Dass called this "becoming nobody." Carl Jung called this "the afternoon of life." Pema Chödrön called this "when things fall apart." Clarissa Pinkola Estés called this "homing: returning to oneself." Brené Brown called this "the midlife unraveling." Marianne Williamson called this "the new midlife." Elizabeth Gilbert called ruin "the road to transformation." Glennon Doyle called this becoming "untamed."

This season of life goes by many names. And a common thread runs through all of them: the self you built to survive and belong eventually sto...