5 Ways to Embrace the Power of Co-Creating with the Universe (...and why it's important in your Expansion)

My family and I are in a huge season of transition.  It has been almost nonstop since early 2019, much like many of us when the pandemic hit.  This season of change has been different than others though.  We have been through drastic changes before.  Like when my husband lost his contract when he was in his own business back in 2009, or when we decided to move to a more remote area in Georgia in 2015 for a job opportunity, or when I left an established corporation to be part of a start up in 2017.  Most of those changes were filled with fear and doubt.  I held tight to 'control' in every situation.  I didn't trust anyone in taking care of the details or making sure everything ran smoothly.  That included my husband and the Universe.  I remember the feeling of dread when my husband was out of work for two months.  I remember the feeling of fear when moving away from all of our friends and the comfort of being close to the hustle and bustle of Atlanta when we moved up to North Georgia.  I remember the feeling of doubt when I decided to be part of a start up company.  And I remember working literally 15-20 hours per day for this start up out of the need to 'prove' myself.  Or when our father passed away suddenly in August 2018 and I felt lost.  

Since 2019, we have been in a constant state of transition.  In 2020 both my husband and I decided to leave our 'stable' jobs and start our own businesses.  I left an Executive Corporate Job- where I was fully supported by one of the best VP's I have ever worked with and making 6 figures-to pursue my dreams of creating my own Healing Center and Program.  My husband left a super awesome and easy job in his field-where he was paid well and had a ton of flexibility to be with the kids during my late nights-to begin his business.

Today, we are preparing to move tomorrow, and not just across town, but back home to New York.  In 2003, we moved to Georgia and have been here ever since.  We have made the decision to move back where all of our family lives.  I remember in my younger years declaring "I will never move back to New York!" and stating it with such conviction.  What has changed you may be asking?

During these past couple of years, I have had some time to reflect.  I have gone through lots of healing and awakenings with the support of my Spiritual Mentors.  I have learned the importance of embracing my Authentic Self, tapping into my Spiritual Guides and Connection, and the importance of Co-Creating with the Universe, which is an ongoing process that I embrace each moment.

This does not mean I am enlightened past the point of suffering.  Just a few weeks ago, I had the feeling of fear overwhelm me.  I had my mind set on how we were going to purchase the land of our dreams and build our dream home.  My husband and I had agreed upon it and I thought it was a done deal.  He took a sharp left turn in his head and wanted to look at homes we could live in while we flipped to make it an investment property.  I kicked and screamed and literally threw a tantrum...not even joking...it was like I was 4 years old again, maybe even younger.  This turn took me a few days to open up to and accept.  Even throughout the process of looking at 'fixer uppers', I had to re-center myself and open up to possibilities.  I didn't do this because I "had" to, or because I was "giving into my husband for his happiness and disregarding mine", which is what younger me would have believed.   I opened up to this different possibility because it was presented to me and I wanted to show up for this opportunity. 

Throughout my personal, professional, and more importantly, spiritual expansion, I have learned the importance of open mindedness.  And not in the typical sense of being accepting of all others, along with their struggles and beauty, but also to the situations and opportunities that present themselves to me.  When I get stuck on one track in my mind of how life should happen, I am shutting out all other opportunities that are present.  I am telling the Universe that I know best (ehhem...hello Ego).    

One of the most powerful experiences we can have on this Earth is to learn how to co-create with the Universe.  Co-creation with the Universe means you to work with the Universe to manifest what is of the highest good for all.  You do your part and then you let the Universe handle the rest.  It is a core aspect of true manifesting and when you enter into the collaboration, the life you are creating becomes easy and effortless.  

Here are three steps you can take today to begin Co-Creating with the Universe:

1. Awareness.  Bring awareness to what you are trying to control in the moment.  Typically, we are out of control of many things that happen in our life. When it really comes down to it, we only have control over what we do and how we respond to situations.  We cannot control outcomes.  We cannot control others-we can impact them with our actions, but we cannot control them...and if you try to manipulate them into doing what you want, then you are definitely not co-creating with the Universe.  If you have a difficulty time connecting with this awareness, tune into your body.  Our body has a way of telling us the truth what is happening.  It stores all of our memories of emotions.  When we are trying to control situations outside of ourself, we feel feel, anger, frustration, resentment, doubt.  These feelings often translate into tension, heaviness, pressure, or even sickness in our body.  Once we are aware that we are holding onto these emotions, we can move onto the next step.

2. Get Curious. With Compassion.  Once we have identified the feelings we are holding onto about any given situation, we can begin to explore what is happening to create that emotion.  If it is fear, what are you afraid of?  When we have an intense reaction about a situation, it is typically from an old experience that created the same emotion.  For instance, when my husband brought up the possibility of changing the direction of our housing search, I was overwhelmed by fear.  After my immediate tantrum, I was able to explore what was happening for me internally.  I noticed my heart, and my thoughts, racing.  I was able to tap into my fear and compassionately examine my fear.  I emphasize compassion because we often examine our thoughts and behaviors with fierce criticism, which leads to shame, which cuts us quickly off from co-creating with the Universe. As I compassionately explored this fear, I was able to identify that I was afraid of putting my dreams on hold, which led me to the years I did this while moving up the corporate ladder believing this is what I "had" to do for my family.  I was able to notice that my mind shifted into scarcity rather than abundance.  I noticed that I was thinking in terms of what I was 'losing' rather than what I would be 'gaining'.

3. Move from Fear to Faith.  Easier said than done, believe me, I know.  It took me years to fully embrace this step, and I still have to be reminded at times. Once we have compassionately explored our emotions behind the immediate reaction, we can choose how we want to move forward.  We move from victim stance into empowerment.  We move from fear into faith.  There are several ways we are able to make this transition and it is important to find the way(s) that work for you.  We often have many pre-conceived notions of what Faith and Spirituality entails.  I am not going to dive into that in this article, because it deserves, and needs, a space of it's own.  We also take a deep dive into this in the Next Level Life Purpose Mastermind Program.  In this step, get in touch with your Spiritual Connection, whatever that may be.  Feel the Earth against your feet when hiking or just being outside.  Go to Church and sit in the pew while praying the Rosary.  Connect with a Spiritual Mentor.  Set time aside for a Breathwork Session.  Take some time to Meditate and be open to the messages from the Universe...which we will discuss in point 5. 

4. Letting Go.  If you are worrying it is a form of attempted control. The belief is “If I worry enough about something, I will be able to figure out a way to prevent something bad from happening.” If it is something you can do something about, then do something about it, but if not, then release it and trust that the best will unfold and stay in faith. The benefit of letting go is to give you room for your spirit to work in your life. If you try to do it all on your own and micromanage every detail, there is no room for spirits to enter.  There are different ways to intentionally let go of worry.   Some use a "God Box", some meditate, some scream their worries into the Universe, and some use Breathwork to release.  Just like connecting with Faith, it is important to find the way(s) that work specifically for you.  

 5. Be Open to Synchronicities.  Synchronicities are events connected to one another not by strict cause-and-effect, but by what in classical times were known as sympathies, by the belief that an acausal relationship exists between events on the inside and the outside of ourselves, crosstalk between mind and matter—which is governed by a certain species of attraction. Psychiatrist Carl Jung believed that synchronicities mirror deep psychological processes, carry messages the way dreams do, and take on meaning and provide guidance to the degree they correspond to emotional states and inner experiences. In my language, I consider these "God Winks" or "Signs from the Universe".  These signs let me know I am no the path that was meant for me.

Here are some examples of synchronicity:

• Overhearing a couple of strangers talk about something that is of great significance to your own life
• Watching episodes of your favorite TV shows that all somehow have the same underlying storyline/focus
• Getting the exact message you need the most at the exact right time (e.g., if you’re going through a divorce, depression, betrayal, major life change, etc.)
• Meeting the exact right person at the exact right time (e.g., a partner, friend, teacher, etc.)
• Seeing the same symbols or images repeated everywhere (e.g., in magazines, on commercials, on buildings, on tattoos)
• Glancing at the clock the exact same time of the day for many days on end (and seeing 11:11, 14:14, 23:23, 2:22, etc.)
• Reoccuring signs that seem to lead you somewhere special (e.g., your ideal job, home, relationship)
• Hearing the same song repeated many times in unusual circumstances
• Strange alignments of birth dates between friends, partners, colleagues, etc.

(If these examples speak to you, then be on the lookout for my next article about my own synchronicities through my stage of Transition!). 

"Why is this important in my expansion?" you may be asking.  When we try to go at life and up-leveling on our own, we have a strong tendency to lose sight of the bigger picture.  We can feel alone and defeated.  We often begin to doubt ourself, our abilities, and our Purpose in this world.  This is why 50% of women give up on their dreams. 

When we align with the Universe into Co-Creation, we are able to consistently connect with our bigger purpose and picture.  We feel the support of something bigger.  We know we are not alone in our journey.  We move forward with courage in the face of fear. 

If you are in your own Season of Transition, I encourage you to anchor into these 5 Steps to Co-Create with the Universe.  For added understanding, discussion, and support, be sure to join the 5 Days to Align with Your Next Level Life Purpose Workshop that begins on December 6th.  This is a free workshop that will create powerful clarity and alignment into your Personal,  Professional, and Spiritual Expansion.

With much love and light, LJ